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| Troubled teens in emotionally abusive relationships |
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It is difficult to monitor who your troubled teenager is dating. You aren’t with him/her all the time and you don’t know what’s going on 24/7. If your teenager is in an emotionally abusive relationship, he/she may tend to keep the negativity bottled up and keep the flow of her own negative reactions flowing inwards. Those troubled teens in emotionally abusive relationships tend to exhibit characteristics likened to that of depression. These teenagers also tend to struggle with self-concept or self-image issues. You may also notice your teen’s confidence levels dropping and he/she may appear to be more passive than usual. Finding a helpful lead It may be hard to catch your troubled teen in an emotionally-abusive relationship, but oftentimes the parental gut feeling can give you a helpful lead. After you’ve felt the inkling, have a talk with your teenager and gently try to get him/her to open up to you. Sometimes just catching your teen on a phone call can leave hints of his/her emotional abuse. If adults themselves struggle for years in emotionally-abusive relationships without trying to find a way out, what more young teenagers just at the start of their blooming growth into mature adults. He/she should know from the beginning that this type of relationship should not be tolerated. Just because his/her girlfriend/boyfriend does not physically hit him/her doesn’t mean that she/he is not doing any damage. By calling him/her names and cursing at him/her, she/he is abusing your teen. Emotionally-abusive boyfriend/girlfriend relationships should not be tolerated. These types of relationships can definitely lead a troubled teenager into self-destructive behaviors, even inducing self-harm, depression, or ultimately suicide. We do not want to let these kind of relationships lead to these harsh results or ends. Deal with the intervention delicately If your teenager does not admit to the emotional abuse or may not even admit it to him/herself, then it is important that you deal with the intervention delicately. You do not want to push your teen even farther away from you and closer to the one who has got him/her on an emotional rollercoaster of negativity. By talking to your teen, make it clearly known to him/her that you are on his/her side. Make sure he/she knows that it is not normal for his/her girlfriend/boyfriend to be leaving him/her feeling the way your teen does about him/herself. If the wounds of emotional abuse were worn outside, then one’s body would be covered in scars. |
