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If you are faced with your own teenager’s pregnancy, you can expect a whirlwind of thoughts to be going through your head. But possibly, one of the strongest things will not be a thought but a feeling—anger. Initially, your feelings of anger concerning the situation that was brought to you may override any other thoughts of concern in your mind. This is dangerous and difficult.
Dealing with Anger
As hard as it its, you want to try and keep your cool in order to look at the situation from the best angle possible. What now? You shouldn’t be an unfeeling machine, yet at the same time you must remain calm enough to continue thinking rationally. There is a problem at hand here and it should be addressed properly.
Definitely take some time for your self to internalize the news. It may not be advisable to face your teenager as soon as she tells you what’s going on. Take your time, so that when you approach her you can provide her with the guidance that she so desperately needs at a time like this.
Providing Guidance
If you burst out with screams of anger, sobs of disappointment, or the like, you can severely add to all the strain on your pregnant teenager as it is. She’s coming to you becomes she needs help. She’s probably got a whole hurricane of thoughts in her head about the situation she is in, and her turning to you shows how she may be grasping around her for a stable structure to ground herself.
By understanding this important point, you can make sure that she does not turn elsewhere with her problem. As much as it can make your blood boil to know that she is pregnant, be the mature one and keep an explosion from happening at home.
What can you do for your teen at a time like this? Be there to listen. Hold her hand, give her a hug. Remind her that you love her and that you will go through her options together. Aggravating an already messy situation will only bring more negativity towards the both of you. What you want to do now when faced with the situation, is foster a positive aura in both yourself and your troubled teenager.
Worrying about the Future
You may be thinking “How can I try to be positive when I know my teenager’s future may now be distinctly altered?!” It’s normal for you to worry about her future, because you know how a baby can affect her education, and more. But to warn you, severe cases of depression and suicide have been significantly noted in teen pregnancies.
If she feels she has no one to turn to and that she has been pushed away, then it is possible that thoughts of self-harm and suicide will come to her. And I think that having your teenager, living and breathing in this world (pregnant or not) would make you happier than not having her at all.
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