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16 year difiant daughter...HELP!!! - 2008/01/10 02:37 I have a 16 yr old daughter, who refuses to follow rules, she thinks she in invincible. I try to correct her and she threatens to call cps. She hates her step dad who has raised her. I dont know what to do anymore. any suggestions?
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Re:16 year difiant daughter...HELP!!! - 2008/01/11 09:47 It sounds like your daughter may be in the need for some ‘tough love’. Your love for your teenager may be what’s keeping you from disciplining her as you should, even when this very love should be exactly what pushes you on to provide her with proper discipline. It may sound impossible for a parent, but in a way you should be able to de-sensitize yourself and view her actions objectively. This will give you the chance to discipline her and her defiance properly. By the looks of things, it’s like she has forgotten the meaning of respect and you are going to have to remind her. In order to accomplish this, you must remind yourself that you are doing this for your teen’s sake and in teaching her a lesson you are letting her peek into a window with a brighter future for you both. With patience, she will understand her mistakes and acknowledge her being wrong. Regarding her stepfather, it’s a great idea if you try to get both your husband and your daughter in a counseling session together. If they work through their issues with one another things may be less rocky at home.
Father and Daughter Counseling may do the trick. It’s a good place to start. She’s lucky she has you as a mom to guide her through it.
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Re:16 year difiant daughter...HELP!!! - 2008/02/26 03:24 I think what is difficult is our society and culture. It is difficult for a child to realize who he/she really is because there is so much "noise" in their world. Without knowing who you are, it is so easy to latch onto anything...and at least experiment. My parents were having such a hard time with my little sister. They heard about Anasazi. It is a wilderness therapy programin Arizona. It is not what you imagine. There is so much love at that program. The idea is they provide a loving and safe enviroment free from the distractions that bombard us and allow them to be among nature and be responsible and accountable to themselves. My sister came back a different person...or her real self, really. She is so happy. She loves that program. She would go back in a heart beat although it was difficult being away from the comforts of her life. She has vision now, perspective. She has confidence and a real understanding of her amazing greatness. I am so grateful for Anasazi.

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