missyme
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What to do??? - 2007/10/12 19:18
My teen is 16 ,she is a very sweet girl and for the most part she is respectfull to me,tries fairly well in school and has a part time job. I try to comend her for these positive things ,although she says not enough,that I "gripe too much at her". However despite her good qualities I am finding out she is involved with some very bad influences and has been experimenting with some OTC and prescription meds and some alcohol use,No illegal drugs so far or at least all her drug test i have given have came up negative. When I have discussed this with her her response is the normal teen response,"mom, I'm not stupid I only tried this stuff a few times ,i'm a good kid ,I could be doing much worse, you just dont see that" inmy opinion this is the worst thing she could be doing!!! Her biggest influence in all this is a boy she is "crazy about" that she has been seeing for over a year,he is a worthless little thug who has no ambition in life except to be a useless drug addict,he doesnt go to school or work and basically lives high ,he and his family live in a way completly different from the way she was raised and how or why she wants to b involved with him i dont know,when i ask all she says is he makes me happy,however she cant tell me one good thing about him,he uses her and i am scared everytime i know she is with him for her safety,I have done everything to stop the relationship even contacting the athorities after he took her out of school ,and was only told because they are both minors ,there's nothing i can do.Every second i am working or she gets out of my site ,they meet.She has threatened to run away and other things if i do anymore to stop this relationship,so to try and let her know i care about her opinions,i even offered to try and accept the relationship as long as they could do it by the rules i set,such as obey curfew,have dates at the house only and he has to pass a drug est,well he eveidently still cant and stays away from us,none of these rules are obeyed they just sneak around.i dont know what to do or what th first step in helping her see this is no life to live,and is dangerous for her.She says i just need to talk to he be her friend and stop griping and putting her and him down all the time,I want to be able to talk with her ,let her know i care and win her over from this boy and life,but I find it very difficult to set and have a "friendly conversation with her about something so serious". Any help would be greatly appriciated....
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