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Is this normal Teen behavior? - 2008/04/08 00:38 I almost don't know where to begin with this. Our daughter just turned 18 last month, and we've had discipline problems with her since kindergarten. When she started high school we had many deaths in the family and this is just about the time the worst part of the problems began. She began lying to us, becoming more and more defiant towards authority figures, and just plain disrespectful to both her dad and I. She told us about 18 months ago that she is gay, but I don't think that really is an issue with her difiant behavior. The fights in the family have gotten so bad that she has punched holes in her bedroom closet door, pushed her dad, and also pushed me last week. After trying to wake her up for school we got into a huge fight and she pushed me, not hard but enough to scare me. Then she told me she was so mad she felt like punching me, which scares the daylights out of me because she is a martial arts black belt. I have decided to start counseling for myself, as she refuses to go. However, if there is any advice anyone could give me I would appreciate it very much. Thank you.

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Re:Is this normal Teen behavior? - 2008/04/09 19:34 Since your daughter is showing displays of teen violence or aggression towards you and other family members, it’s important to address this issue abruptly. Because your daughter refuses to go to counseling and you’re currently seeing a therapist, why not try going to therapy or counseling together (mother-daughter therapy). If she won’t go alone, then this appears to be one of the best options you can try. Apparently you and your daughter still have issues which need to be addressed and counseling can really get all this out in the open. Initially it may be difficult to handle, but the aftereffects of therapy will be worth that initial breaking-in point for you both. Communication and understanding are extremely important in any parent-teen relationship. Therapy is just a helping hand in order to make sure that your communication lines with your daughter and also hers to you are loud and clear. Give it a try and see how things turn out!
Just remember, aside from your loving concern for your daughter, when any physical aggression is involved you should be concerned for yourself as well. Good luck with the counseling and take care of yourself as you take care of your daughter!

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Re:Is this normal Teen behavior? - 2008/04/21 21:25 I suggest you to take your child a teen boot camp or wilderness therapy for teens. it may cost you money but I'm pretty sure that your child will change for the better.

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Re:Is this normal Teen behavior? - 2008/05/01 02:21 It has been said, "95% of people cannot afford residential treatment services." A new web-based product has been implemented for those who want help for their teens but can't afford the prices of residential treatment. This is tremendously more advantageous than a youth treatment directory;the database consists of hundreds of catalogued programs where families enter their child's profile, and applicable programs are instantly identified for the client.

I have all of the information you need regarding this program. If you are interested, by all means please contact me.

Sharron Bessant, BSW
tsbessant@hotmail.com

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