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SNITCHING - 2007/11/13 23:38 I JUST FOUND THIS OUT THROUGH MY WIFE, YESTERDAY, SHE WAS MADE TO SWEAR TO MY DAUGHTER THAT SHE WOULD NOT TELL "ANYONE" INCLUDING ME WHAT SHE DISCLOSED .
SHE DISCLOSED THAT SHE KNOWS MY NEPHEWS ARE USING COCAINE, ONE OF THEM IS 22, THE OTHER 18. WE DON'T KNOW FOR SURE HOW OFTEN THIS HAPPENS BUT SHE DOES KNOW FOR SURE THAT IT HAPPENED WHEN WE WERE VISITING IN THE SUMMER.
THESE ARE MY BROTHERS KIDS, THEY ARE A CHRISTIAN FAMILY AND I KNOW THE INFORMATION WOULD DEVISTATE THEM, WE HAVE 3 KIDS OF OUR OWN. MY WIFE IS OF THE OPINION THAT SHE HAS BEEN GIVEN THIS INFORMATION IN TRUST AND TO SAY ANYTHING WOULD DESTROY THE TRUST SHE SHARES WITH MY DAUGHTER. I DO NOT AGREE, I UNDERSTAND THE INFORMATION BEEN GIVEN IN TRUST BUT I DON'T KNOW THAT I CAN GO ALONG WITH "NOT INTERFERING", HAS ANYONE ELSE HAD TO DEAL WITH THIS PROBLEM?. MY POSITION IS, IF I FOUND OUT THAT MY BROTHER WAS KEEPING INFORMATION LIKE THIS FROM ME , I WOULD BE VERY DISSAPOINTED AND ANGRY, ESPECIALLY IF INTERVENTION AT THIS STAGE MAY PREVENT IT GETTING WORSE, IF ANYONE CAN OFFER SOUND ADVICE I WOULD APPRECIATE ANOTHER VIEW, THANK YOU KEN
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Re:SNITCHING - 2007/11/15 13:34 You’ve got a tricky situation on your hands. On one side you have your nephew’s predicament involving drug-use and on the other you have your parental relationship of trust with your daughter. Of course both sides carry weight, but not informing your brother with such information would prove to be, as you described, a “disappointing” move. Is there any way in which you could inform your brother without it appearing that the information came from your daughter’s private talk with her mother? In exchange for the important information, you can ask your brother to help make sure that your daughter’s trust in her parents does not appear to be broken. He could think of a possible way that he found out about his kids’ drug use. This way, everyone still gets what they need. Make sure that you talk things through with him clearly in order for him to understand your situation before you drop the news on him. This kind of information about one’s own children can result in a parent’s immediate, outrageous response and this may not help you with your daughter’s wish for privacy. Once you and your brother have both come to a clear agreement, then you can be sure that the following steps will be well thought out and have both of your children’s best interests in mind. Good luck!
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