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Defiance - 2006/11/22 17:49 Hello, I was just wondering if anyone had any ideas on how I should respond to my sons first show of defiance. I was too taken aback to know how to respond at the time other than to tell him to think about what he was doing and leaving him to stew on it. He has just turned 13 and I feel like I have been suddenly given a changling, he has gone from being a loving, caring and affectionate boy to an agressive, unruly and defiant teen seemingly overnight. I also have a 16 year old daughter who has never been a problem in these terms and as such I have no previous experience of how to deal with it.
It is coming to a head now as last night he went in a temper into his sisters rooms without our knowledge and ripped all her posters of the wall, she is now insisting she wants to move in with her father, which is something I will not allow.
I have wondered is he jealous of his sister? Like all parents I have tried to treat them both equally, but maybe I have slipped up in this regard.
I am worried that if he feels that he has gotten 'away' with standing up to me and shouting me down that he will think he now has a licence to continue to do so.
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Re:Defiance - 2006/11/22 20:07 Stepping into the time of adolescence can definitely leave your child in a confused state.
If the thought of him being jealous of his sister came into your mind, there must be a reason. But thinking about possibilities will not give you a solution, you need to act. Talk! Talk is a very important tool. Talk with your new teen in order to make sure that you're not left with a bunch of questions in your mind about what could be going on in your youngster's head. As cliche as it may sound, a clear flow of communication between you and your son is the key to better understanding. Make sure that you tell him that his behavior and actions are not the kind that you are willing to tolerate in your home and that by doing so he did disrespect you. Talk!
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Re:Defiance - 2006/11/22 21:55 Thank you for your reply, I will have a talk with him when he comes home from school
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