susan53024
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Dad not supportive - 2007/04/17 04:08
My soon to be 17 year old will not listen, is disrepectful and has also been caught drinking and smoking pot. My boyfriend and I took his 2 teen boys and my 2 teen boys on a weekend vacation where they could ride 4 wheelers etc. When my boyfriend asked my son to help straighten up the cabin before we left, my son said no and flipped him off. My boyfriend yelled at him, then my son called his father and told him that he had been threatened to be hit, which was not the truth. My boyfriend tried to talk with my ex who only preceeded to yell at him and not listening to the fact that what my son had said was not true. My ex called me yelling at me about how poorly I am raising the kids. Well, my ex has not taken my 17 year old for over 3 months and only takes the 15 year old one day a week, which he usually ends up sleeping at a friends house anyway. Well, I had enough and felt like since I never have any backup from my ex, who loves nothing more than making me look like the bad guy and receive no support on any of the school or behavior issues, I decided to tell him, he can take him and raise him. I also told my son that. I am sure it is not going to last long, my son really doesn't want to live with him and my ex doesn't want to raise him, otherwise he would be involved with his life. I am feeling horrible about this. I hope I am doing the right thing, but I see no other way for the kids and my ex to stop using me to get what they want. If my son continues to go behind my back whenever he gets into trouble and my ex is more than happy to look like the hero, then I don't feel my son will ever be responsible. Am I doing the right thing? He is in counseling for the pot and other issues and my boyfriend and I have now started counseling to learn how to deal with these issues.
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