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defiant teen on drugs - 2007/06/06 06:36 my 17 yr. old daughter is doing drugs, pot
cocaine, xanax, i told her to stop she said she stopped
all drugs but pot, she was missing classes, lying
about where she was going, very disrespectful,
calls me horrible names ,wouldnt do chores i asked
her too to do.( only chore is for her to clean up
after herself) we got in an arguement when i
asked her to clean up her room, she walked by me with
a disdained look so i pulled her pony tail in an
attempt to get her back in her room and she
immediately started to hit me several times with her
fists,so i told her to go live at her dad's and
she did. He lets her do what ever she wants and
now i have no contact with her. My 19 year old
daughter tells me it isnt me thats the problem its
her sister. but i love my daughter and i want her
to come back home and not do drugs and follow the
house rules. Her dad is not helpful because he
is out of work and wants me to pay him child
support. What should I do to get her back and help, I
have checked into rehabs for her but the ones i
can afford are like prisons. She is coming home
for a visit this friday. what should i do to keep
her home, i have sole custody.
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Re:defiant teen on drugs - 2007/06/18 16:31 First, in order to get your daughter to communicate with you when she comes back for a visit, try a positive approach so as not to intimidate her. Even if her previous reactions have been disrespectful, choosing a positive warm approach can help in getting her to open up to you as her freedom does not feel threatened in any way. Your unconditional love for your daughter ,despite the reactions which she may have given your disciplining, is beautiful. If your daughter is truly struggling with substance abuse, rehab is a definite must. Try your best to find a suitable program because a drug addiction is not something that a troubled teenager can just snap out of. She will most likely respond to this idea with defiance, but in order to ease your way into getting her to let you help her-- start her out with a warm hug when she enters the door. Don't mention the rehab program as you are still getting her to warm up to żou first. Let her feel the love from you and work slowly from there. Goodluck!
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