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son asks to move back in ..... - 2007/07/19 04:06
Hi there
need some advice : Our difficult son left home last year aged 18 because he wanted total freedom in his habit of taking cannabis and drinking, and because we couldn't get on with each other. He couldn't stick to any rules, like to give us plenty of warning if he wanted his friends to stay the night at home. Instead he would just bring friend (s) home at 5 o'clock in the morning. He was thrown out from school because of bad behaviour etc....
Last summer he moved in to a room in a nearby house, he said he would pay his ways. In the first month he would come home everyday to eat and play his music. The second month we hardly saw him, but we knew he's ok (some friends told us). Then came the rejection period, when he refused any gifts or food from us. After a few months he realised he couldn't keep up with his rental payments, which is £70/week. We ended up helping him with the rent.
Like some mothers who experience violent outbursts from their teenage kids, I too, was frightened at times when our son lived with us, I had to be careful what and how I said. He asked his dad yesterday about him moving back in. He lost his job again because he couldn't turn up on time after being warned several times. I am really scared having him back, although he's going to university in October. What worries me is if he did what he did again, we can't really tell him to live somewhere else. Also, I haven't seen the change about him keeping his promises.
Am I a heartless mother?
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