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"Forgetting" to do chores - 2007/08/24 23:06 My 16 year old daughter isn't overly defiant, but just can't seem to "remember" to do the daily tasks assigned to her. When she doesn't do them and we punish, she just accepts the punishment.

As an example, we ask that she get her lunch ready the night before school so she A-doesn't run late or B-doesn't grab junk to eat. Two days into the school year and she already "forgot" to pack her lunch Tuesday. In following "our deal", I took away the computer and the TV for the week. She made lunch Wednesday, but then again didn't do it last night. Her arguement is that she can grab her sandwhich, and other stuff in the morning. My point is that she doesn't AND that I've set a rule I expect to be followed.

We have the same problem off and on with taking out the trash, doing the dishes, etc.
She gets on a good roll and does everything for a bit and then just drops off.

I plan on grounding her for the weekend, but I know she'll take it. She will spend the weekend in her room and we'll start the whole routine again next week! I feel like we are going in circles and I just don't know what to do.

I'd appreciate any advice....
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Re:"Forgetting" to do chores - 2007/08/26 17:33 What you may opt to consider for your daughter’s type of behavior is a kind of in-home application of behavior modification.
A program for behavior modification may initially deal with the rebellious acts first, acknowledging the problem behavior, then putting a stop to it as proper behavior is introduced in place of it. After the proper behavior is introduced it must be sustained. Here’s where this type of system may be able to help your daughter in order to keep her behavior from going in circles. Behavior modification involves different kinds of reinforcement applied to help in the maintenance of proper behavior. One may use positive and negative reinforcement.
• Positive reinforcement may be characterized by its utilization of rewards in the reinforcement of appropriate behavior. For example, you may choose to simply compliment your daughter on how well her chores were done.
• Negative reinforcement works through letting a teen avoid penalties as the reinforcement of proper behavior she may have displayed. For example, if your daughter completes all her schoolwork on time, then she no longer has to do the dishes that night.

Since you have apparently already realized your daughter’s behavior pattern, it’s now up to you to make a plan of reinforcement and corresponding awards and penalties which can be put together. Steady reinforcement is needed in order to sustain the behavior you seek from her and for the maintenance of your daughter’s ideal behavior.

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Re:"Forgetting" to do chores - 2007/12/11 09:20 I think you should make the punishment something harder, so that she doesnt want it. Take away her favorite privlidges. www.eagleranchacademy.com
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