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angy son - 2007/06/25 07:11 Hi ..im new to this forum but i need some advice...

Goodness long story......My middle son has always been a handful.....a few years ago he went to live with his father as he was becoming abusive mentally and physically to me. When he went to live with his dad he calmed down a bit but down the track he got lost again and it ended up him having a huge fight with his dad so his dad kicked him out and he is now back living with me, which is great as I missed him... Now though he wont do as he is told and to be quite frank he still scares me as im worried he will lay into me again if i push him too far. Yes i know that I should stand up to him but as i have said he fridhtens me with his anger. His father and him do not talk anymore and I do not push him to talk to his father as that would be totally pointless (another long story)....I have no male role model for him either as my father passed away not long ago ...Im at my wits end as wot to do because if I do push him he gets physical .

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Re:angy son - 2007/06/26 20:02 You should be concerned about your own physical welfare if your son is physically abusive because as his mother you shouldn’t be afraid of your son. The mere fact that he frightens you is a definite flag that he needs proper control. He may benefit greatly from anger management counseling. This type of counseling will help him deal with his bouts of anger and control any disrespectful words and actions before they even occur. Of course, it will take time but with patience he should respond with movement in the right direction. Check out the available counseling sessions in your area in order to inquire about this particular form of counseling. You may talk to your son’s school counselor for any recommendations. Physical abuse should not be put aside, it needs to be directly addressed and not left hanging. You do not want to live in continual fear. Professional help can provide the type of mediation which will be beneficial for you both.
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Re:angy son - 2007/06/26 20:33 thanku for answering my letter....I do have an appointment with his school next week so I shall speak to their couseller....We did have a talk this afternoon (my son and I) and hopefully it may get a little better but I know it wont last long. He asked me today if I thought he was adhd or something like that as other ppl have said to him that he was but I do not believe in add or adhd or the medication that is givin to them. It seems to be worse when he is tired and has always slept alot ever since he was little. He has dropped out of all sports which he was always very good at. Having no contact with his father since his father layed into him and kicked him out as well as his elder brother whom both live with me now. I think this may have an effect on him as well even though he wouldnt admit it.
Once again thankyou for your reply and i shall be speaking with his school to see if they have any solutions in the way of counselling
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