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Re:Pulling my hair out........ - 2007/09/09 20:06
You mention that you have taken back your daughter’s freedom in the areas which only resulted in defiant acts, but now there’s nothing left to take away. How has she responded to your new acts of discipline? Did you notice any changes in her behavior resulting from your new restrictions? You also say that ‘she has no life right now.’ If you have disciplined your daughter in all the areas where she has been showing defiance to the point that there are no other restrictions to be made, yet you are not getting the kind of response that you want from her, then it’s time to try a different approach. Instead of staring down at her, sit beside her. This may actually help you relax as well. Don’t think of a goal in mind for your daughter when you sit beside her and talk with her. She shouldn’t feel apprehensive. It’s simply that—you just want to talk with her. But on your side, your main agenda here is actually the fact that you want to listen. You may just find out a lot more than you expected and this can definitely affect the behavior which she has been displaying. Start here, and as she opens up to you, she herself may tell you, without even knowing it, how to deal with her.
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