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14 year old girl - 2007/03/15 04:04 I have a fourteen year old daughter who has ADD and she is taking zoloft. She is in counselling alone and with us. We try to keep lines of communication and let her know she can tell us anything. She also knows we both love her absolutely and unconditionally. She did get caught shoplifting last year, said she learned her lesson, but I've discovered she's doing it again. She told us her friends bought her the stuff. She stole a bottle of rye from us, looked us straight in the face and said she didn't know what we were talking about. We found the bottle in her room eventually. She has also tried pot (that we know of) and when we caught her she tried to tell us that she thought it might improve her appetite (which is down due to her depression). I'm also convinced that she's lying about where she is and what she's doing when she's "at the library", "at the mall" or at a friends house. Since this last shoplifting episode, which she denies, she is not allowed to go to the mall. But she has to take city transit to school and with a bus pass she can pretty much go anywhere and she's not afraid to take the bus to new places. I don't think she's going to run away and I don't think she's having sex, but I thought she wasn't shoplifting too. Is this typical 14 year old behaviour? Is she heading down the wrong road? What else can we do?
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Re:14 year old girl - 2007/03/16 19:44 I have twin girls 14. They feel that I treat them too much like little children. They want to pick out their own clothes which I think most of the timeare too grwon. They get upset and don't want me around when they go shopping. They lye alot. Sometimes they come home with things and say that a friend has bought them. It is no use asking either one of them to tell the truth because they cover up for each other. They sometimes go out late at night when their father and I have gone to bed. One morning I had to get up early and they came home at 4 a.m. They said that they had just left the house an hour before to help a friend look for another friend. I had to give them a key because they catch the bus home from school and how to get in the house. They don't want to do anything with me nor go anywhere with me. They feel that they should be allowed to things with their friends. How do I deal with this situation. Am not sure if they are having sex. I 've asked them and they have said no but I don't know what to believe.

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Re:14 year old girl - 2007/03/20 19:44 You're right to think that your teenage daughter may be headed in the wrong direction.
Action must be taken. It is good that she is under the right medication for her disorder
and the fact that she is undergoing counselling is great. From reading your post, the
only thing left for you to add to this equation of wellness is more discipline and stricter
follow-up or observation, which may be coupled with corresponding punishment when your
terms are not followed.
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Re:14 year old girl - 2007/05/17 16:41 If matters get worse, consider getting a professional help. Your child obviously needs some aid.

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Re:14 year old girl - 2007/05/30 12:42 Thats a good recourse, I bet she will listen and listen to you. you have a good attitude towards her

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Re:14 year old girl - 2007/06/12 00:08 What did you do to them for sneaking out? That is a huge deal. Do you have an alarm you can set that would alert you to doors or windows opening? that is very scary to think about to young girls out it the middle of the night. Someone must have picked them up or did they walk. either way it is not good. it sounds like they need some serious discipline.
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