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correct punishment? - 2007/06/11 21:40 while on a beach trip with friends, my 15 year old daughter had sex with her boyfriend at another house where another group from her school was staying. I was contacted by her chaperone and went to the beach and brought her home. we have taken her cell phone and grounded her for 1 month. She may make a few breif phone calls from our home phone each day and can use the computer for 1 hour each day. she cannot leave the house or have friends over. after the 1 month grounding, she will have limited privledges. she is fine with that part. here is the question: We have forbid her from talking to the boyfriend or having any contact with him. she thinks we are being cruel because they "love" each other. are we wrong to think we can break them up?
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Re:correct punishment? - 2007/06/18 16:36 You are not being cruel regarding your choice of discipline for your daughter concerning her relation to her boyfriend-- you are being parents. After catching your daughter having sexual relations at a young age with this boy, it is a normal reaction for you to want to keep her as far as possible from him. You are concerned with her well-being and future. But what makes this hard to understand for your daughter is that she, on the other hand, is concerned with the emotions she is presently feeling for this boy and her pre-occupation with young love. This is also a normal reaction for a teenager. It may be difficult to forbid her from any contact with this boy, because it may just lead to further defiance or her sneaking out and concealing things in order to be with him. You may opt to take a different approach by sitting her down or even both of them down together and explaining your side. You can tell them that your intentions are not to be cruel but are to protect them from irresponsible behavior which can ruin their future. If they can be in contact with one another responsibly then it's up to them, but if they can't your daughter must understand that forbidding her to see him will be the answer.
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