If you need help with your teen or if you have any questions about this Total Transformation free trial offer - please call 1-866-620-1421


Interested in a placement for you troubled teen?
call 1-800-845-1413 to speak one of our consultants



Help for Troubled Teenagers Forum  


my 17-year old bro - 2007/08/11 20:12 hi! i just wanna ask..
i have a brother who is 3 & 1/2 yrs younger than me..he's 17 now...
before we used to have a pretty "good" life...and i think he was
spoiled by everyone since he's the youngest grandson ...but just a
couple of years later we became bankrupt and everything began failing ...we
used to have maids around and all of the sudden they weren't there to
help anymore... my bro don't recieve much attention anymore since my
parents had to work elsewhere to find money to support the family and my granny died that same year..his
"wants" can't also be given at once like he used to...
now...around 5 years later, we are still on the process of
recovering...although we're better off today than we were 5 yrs ago, we still can't
afford that much luxury...
now my problem is, my brother's becoming a headache ..we're away from
home and we live in a dorm together...most of our dormmates come from
well off families...and i think my brother's trying to live their
lifestyle..he's spending alot, demanding, having vices like smoking and won't
study his lessons...he's also lied a couple of times, and all of those
lies involved money ...like there was this one time when he asked for
money to buy books, turned out he spent the money for something else...and
just this morning, he asked again for something and unfortunately, our
parents weren't able to send us our allowance yet...and so when i
told him i don't have any, he got mad and even threatened me that he'll
drop his classes...
i don't know why he can't understand our situation, and he keeps on
throwing things when he's mad..i think his compensation defense mechanism
is getting more and more destructive ..he broke his mp4 (which was his
dream gadget), threw 2 cellphones and messed up our room...
i can't control him anymore, and my parents are away...i really don't
want him to end up a "trash"...how can i help him?he doesn't know how to
listen...not even to our parents....sometimes i think he's going crazy
coz he always do what he knows is not right and good for him..he's
always trying to break the rules....i'm not so sure if he can understand the word "mature"...he's supposed to know better right?afterall that we've been through?but turns out he don't care about the world anymore...it's useless talking to him coz he won't listen anyway...
pls help me
  | | The administrator has disabled public write access.
Re:my 17-year old bro - 2007/09/26 03:04 You are way to dramatic, calm down and step back, things will get better, trust me been there!
  | | The administrator has disabled public write access.
Re:my 17-year old bro - 2007/12/11 09:04 It sounds to me like you need to stop being your brothers mom. You need to move out and let him handle things in his own way. He will eventually realize he cant have everything in life! www.eagleranchacademy.com
  | | The administrator has disabled public write access.