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What do I do now? - 2008/02/01 20:06 My daughter is 14. I first found out about her using drugs right before Christmas. She was suspended from school and I had to go pick her up. She was high. I was devastated to say the least. I have found out over the last few months that she has been drinking, using prescription pills and smoking marijuana for almost two years. That I didn't know it, still baffles me and makes me feel like such a bad parent. How could I not have known?
Since then things have only gotten worse. She has run away twice. Been court ordered to a local program for 3 weeks, ran away from there, and the day she ran away was raped.
I have met brick wall after brick wall trying to get help. After 6 weeks of trying to find a bed in a treatment facility I have come to a dead end. Our insurance turned us down saying she doesnt meet the criteria. She is diagnosed with alcohol and drug addiction, conduct disorder and ADHD. Even the doctor wrote a letter for the insurance company stating that after out patient groups and counseling that she needs inpatient.
We cannot afford to pay out of pocket for treatment facilities or any of the boarding houses, etc.
I am at an absolute loss as to what to do now.
I am afraid for her and now that her 21 day court order is over and she has to return to school, I am scared that she will either run away again or something worse will happen to her.
I need advice on where to go from here. Please.
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Re:What do I do now? - 2008/02/02 10:16 Because your daughter is doing drugs at a young age (14), it may be best for her to continue to receive counseling, even outpatient counseling if inpatient treatment is not possible. At this age, it has been studied that teens are more receptive to professional therapy and it can help mold her behavior for the years to come where troubled teens have been notorious to be hard-headed and one-way thinkers. Hopefully, if you catch her at this age with the proper therapy, her behavior will not worsen. Definitely the kinds of issues she is dealing with at just the start of adolescence need the continued proper attention from a counselor or therapist. Her own physical health is at hand and this must be addressed. Also, a counselor may help you deal with her negative influence relationships. By disciplining your daughter, you are concerned with her well-being and future. But what makes this hard to understand for your daughter is that she, on the other hand, is concerned with her own wants. Counseling can simultaneously provide help as you may opt to speak to your teen and consider trying an approach where you open up a bit yourself about your own experiences while at the same time introducing proper advice as to how she should be acting responsibly.
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Re:What do I do now? - 2008/04/25 08:45 I don't have advice on what to do because I am going through the same thing with my son. He is 15 and ran away once was arrested. He was suspended from school for 3 days for smoking in bathroom and to top that off he was busted by the police for smoking pot on street corner of major intersection bus stop. I just got his progress report and he has all F's. Believe me I know what your going through and I'm in the same boat. We haven't gotten his court date yet so I'm scared to death of what the judge will recommend and we like you can't afford boot camps and treatment faciities. I just wanted to let you know you're not alone. Hang in there.
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